RISING DIRECTORS & VPs
leading inside complex companies
BECOME A
GREAT
LEADER
BECOME A
GREAT LEADER
Feel fully at home in your leadership role.
Confident you’re more than capable —
with respect and influence up, down, & across.
Trusted by Leaders in the World’s Most Respected Companies
Built for the real demands of leadership within complex organizations.
From the desk of BJ Brighton, CST, LCI
TO: Directors and VPs
RE: Cross the Line from Good to Great Leadership
If you’re reading this, you’re likely leading inside complexity most people never see.
You’re responsible for decisions that carry real consequences.
You’re navigating responsibilities and demands that aren’t always clear and are always high.
And you’re expected to perform consistently as the scope of your role keeps expanding.
| WHY YOU'RE HERE
You wouldn’t be here if everything was going well.
If you’re exploring leadership coaching, it’s usually not because you’ve failed — it’s because something isn’t working right, and being a good leader no longer feels like enough for this level.
Maybe…
You’re disappointed in yourself — because the strong, capable leader you see in your head isn’t the one showing up every day.
You’re confused and frustrated — because the success you expected (hitting goals, being recognized, increased pay, or moving up) hasn’t materialized the way you wanted.
You’re surprised and concerned — because the critical feedback you’re getting doesn’t match how you see your own leadership.
Whatever’s not working that brought you here — you want to get past it, once and for all.
If that’s you, you’re in the right place.
| THE BIG ASSUMPTION
Most leadership development processes still assume that since you’re smart, capable, and driven, you’ll stretch and adapt yourself as the demands of your role increase — without ever questioning whether the inner structure you’re leading from still fits the job.
So, as your role expands — into greater ambiguity, broader responsibility for people and outcomes, more visibility, and decisions that affect teams, results, and reputation — the guidance largely stays the same:
Stretch. Adapt. Deliver.
Manage yourself. Manage your team.
Influence up, down, & across — without rocking the boat.
Keep things moving. Don’t drop the ball.
And for a while, that works. After all, functional performance is what got you promoted to leadership in the first place.
So, it works. Until it doesn’t.
And eventually, it raises the question few rising leaders say out loud:
“Do I really have what it takes — or am I missing something important?”
At this stage, that question is more common than you think.
If you relate to any of this, you’re not alone.
Read on — or
| WHY THIS SHOWS UP AT THIS STAGE
This is a common experience for rising Directors and VPs in complex organizations — not because something is wrong, but because leadership roles today expand faster than most leadership development ever prepares you for.
Here’s the part most rising Directors & VPs never get told:
This isn’t a communication or time management skill gap.
It’s not a confidence or limiting belief issue.
It’s not about influence tactics or political navigation.
It’s not a mindset, resilience, or executive presence problem.
And it’s not a personal failing.
If it were any of that, you’d have solved it already.
Instead, what you’re experiencing is the predictable result of traditional leadership development — approaches designed to help leaders stretch, adapt, and perform well…
…but not to help good leaders examine or reorganize the inner identity they lead from — where real authority, certainty, and influence come from, and where the difference between good leadership and great leadership actually begins.
GAME OVER
Think of it this way. It’s like trying to run a graphics-heavy video game on an outdated operating system. You can keep upgrading the game — add new features, learn new controls, push performance harder — but underneath it all, the system it’s running on was never designed to handle this level of complexity.
So things lag, glitches appear, and everything takes more time and effort than it should. Nothing is wrong with the game, and nothing is wrong with you. The issue is that the internal operating system you’re leading from hasn’t been updated to match the level, speed, and consequences of the role you’re now in.
Which means this isn’t about fixing yourself — or piling on more training.
GAME OVER
Think of it this way. It’s like trying to run a sophisticated, graphics-heavy video game on an outdated operating system. You can keep upgrading the game — add new features, learn new controls, push performance harder — but underneath it all, the system it’s running on was never designed to handle this level of complexity.
So things lag, glitches appear, and everything takes more time and effort than it should. Nothing is wrong with the game, and nothing is wrong with you. The issue is that the internal operating system you’re leading from hasn’t been updated to match the level, speed, and consequences of the role you’re now in.
Which means this isn’t about fixing yourself — or piling on more training.
It’s about recognizing that you may still be leading from an internal identity structure that was never designed for the scope, visibility, and demands your role now requires.
And until that current inner structure is seen clearly and updated, whatever isn’t working in your leadership — the very thing that brought you here — will continue to repeat, no matter how capable or experienced you are.
This is why most leadership development training falls short.
Keep reading — or
| CROSSING THE LINE FROM GOOD TO GREAT LEADERSHIP
Being a good leader is not the same as being a great one.
Good leaders stretch, adapt, and perform well enough under pressure.
Great leadership requires something different.
Not more skills, tools, or tactics.
Not endless stretching or adapting.
Not working harder or smarter, or having thicker skin.
But a different relationship to your authority, certainty, and influence — one that comes from within.
If this letter feels uncomfortably accurate, that’s a good sign.
It means you’re ready for a different conversation — one that goes beyond traditional leadership development and addresses what this stage of leadership is actually asking of you now.
Because leadership is meant to unlock your full human potential, not limit it.
If this sounds like the leader you know you’re meant to be, the next step is simple.
I invite you to a short, no-obligation introductory call — a friendly chat to meet, hear what’s going on in your leadership role, and decide whether it makes sense to talk further.
Click the 'Book A Call' button to be taken to my online calendar and reserve a time for us to speak.
I look forward to meeting you.
— BJ
BJ Brighton, CST, LCI
Founder, Great Leader
P.S. This is often how great leaders grow into truly esteemed executives over time.
REAL LEADERS
When Leadership Outgrows Its Old Playbook...
“I honestly thought I was fine and didn’t need coaching. I was well-trained, respected, and getting results. In my first talk with BJ, I walked in expecting one thing and walked out with so many ‘aha’ moments about myself that I wasn’t even aware of. What I didn’t see was how much I was settling — especially when it came to my role, my pay, and what I was accepting out of loyalty to my employer. I wasn’t unhappy, but I did feel taken advantage of. I was going above and beyond in an environment that no longer matched the level I was operating at. The coaching didn’t try to change me. It helped me see what I hadn’t been questioning. BJ’s guidance helped me see that I had already outgrown the role and company I was in, and staying no longer made sense. I changed companies, stepped into a role where my leadership and expertise were genuinely valued and compensated appropriately, with the upward mobility I wanted. I’ve since moved into an SVP role and taken on a board position — not just because I worked harder, but because I was finally operating from the right internal footing and continue to do so.”
"I thought my job as a leader was to keep all the plates spinning so nothing crashed. I was frustrated with what I saw as my team’s incompetence and irritated that I was having to do their work. I was working nights and weekends just to catch up on my own work, which didn’t exactly make my wife happy. BJ’s coaching helped me see that the problem wasn’t just my team — it was how much pressure I personally felt to keep it all together. Instead of leading and developing my team, I was jumping in and fixing things myself. Through the coaching, all that changed. It wasn’t instant, or immediately hands-off, but I could now lead from a place that let my team work, struggle a bit, and take responsibility — without me rescuing everything. Coaching with BJ had made a huge difference at work and at home."
Client's name changed and company name withheld to protect client confidentiality.
Hi, I'm BJ Brighton,
and I help good leaders become great leaders.
For more than a decade, I’ve coached rising leaders like you — along with C-suite executives and multi-millionaire entrepreneurs.
That work grew out of my own frustration with traditional leadership training that never addressed what I was actually experiencing.
This crossroads you’re at — where what’s always worked before is no longer working — is one many good leaders reach, often unwillingly.
I know this moment well. It’s where my own journey began. When I reached it, I was given the same explanation most leaders hear: Leadership is hard. This is the price of it. Here’s how to manage it better.
So I did what most high performers do...
More effort... Another training. Another tool. Another way to adapt.
That path worked — to a point.
But instead of accepting that this was “just how it is,” I made a different choice. I devoted myself to understanding what was missing — and why the leaders I admired and respected seemed to have 'it' while I didn't.
Over time, I came to see something far more foundational — something no one else is addressing directly:
The internal structure that shapes how leadership is sourced in the first place.
I uncovered it in my own leadership first. And today, I continue to guide rising Directors and VPs to see it clearly and update it — without losing years spinning in circles.
When that inner structure is finally seen and reorganized, a different door opens — and that’s where your great leadership truly begins.
Let’s begin with a short introductory call.
Hi, I'm BJ Brighton,
and I help good leaders become great leaders.
For more than a decade, I’ve coached rising leaders like you — along with C-suite executives and multi-millionaire entrepreneurs.
That work grew out of my own frustration with traditional leadership training that never addressed what I was actually experiencing.
This crossroads you’re at — where what’s always worked before is no longer working — is one many good leaders reach, often unwillingly.
I know this moment well. It’s where my own journey began. When I reached it, I was given the same explanation most leaders hear: Leadership is hard. This is the price of it. Here’s how to manage it better.
So I did what most high performers do...
More effort... Another training. Another tool. Another way to adapt.
That path worked — to a point.
But instead of accepting that this was “just how it is,” I made a different choice. I devoted myself to understanding what was missing — and why the leaders I admired and respected seemed to have 'it' while I didn't.
Over time, I came to see something far more foundational — something no one else is addressing directly:
The internal structure that shapes how leadership is sourced in the first place.
I uncovered it in my own leadership first. And today, I continue to guide rising Directors and VPs to see it clearly and update it — without losing years spinning in circles.
When that inner structure is finally seen and reorganized, a different door opens — and that’s where your great leadership truly begins.
Let’s begin with a short introductory call.
Getting started is easy.
1. Book Free Intro Call
A friendly, 15-min chat to hear what’s going on in your leadership role and see if it makes sense for us to talk further. You’ll answer one powerful question on the booking form to help us focus quickly.
2. Clarity Session
In this session, we’ll clarify where you are, where you want to be, what’s not working, and what’s needed next — so you leave with insight and direction, regardless of whether we work together.
3. See Your Structure
A targeted session where we get under the hood for a close look at the actual inner structure you’ve been leading from. You'll clearly see whether or not it still fits the demands of your role today.
4. Become a Great Leader
In-depth, private coaching to reorganize the inner structure you lead from — so leadership is fully yours and natural — with respect, influence, and the confidence that you are more than capable.
REAL LEADERS
What Changes When Leadership Is Updated From the Inside...
"For my entire professional career — despite my abilities and accomplishments — I was secretly riddled with work anxiety, procrastination, and feeling like a fraud. No one knew it. I looked confident, successful, and in control. That was the point. In my CSO role with high stakes and big responsibility, I told myself the pace and stress were just part of the deal, so suck it up and deliver. I’d delay to the last minute, then go all out. I was hard on myself and hard on others with lots of team turnover, plus the toll all this taking on my health and in my marriage. I was working with a psychiatrist and on high-dose anxiety medication which kept me functioning at work. But on bad days, I’d buy something expensive — another Rolex, another Ferrari — just to knock the edge off and feel good about myself for a bit. A golf buddy at my club recommended I work with BJ. From the start, this wasn’t just therapy and talking things out, though we went deep. BJ helped me see the internal setup I’d been living and leading from for years — where I relied on deadline pressure to keep failure off the table. The changes didn’t happen overnight, but it was real. The progress I made working with BJ in a short time was incomparable to years of trying to manage this through therapy and medication. As we reworked how I was operating internally, I significantly reduced my anxiety meds with my psychiatrist because I no longer needed it to get through the week. My leadership did a 180-degree turn — no more churn on my team, clearer decisions, and a solid, consistent pace that moves things forward. Both my health and marriage are good now. I still operate in a demanding, high-stakes environment, yet now I’m enjoying it and having fun instead of grinding myself into the ground."
"I was identified as top talent, promoted to lead the finance team, and suddenly presenting regularly to the C-suite and Board. While I had much leadership and other skills training throughout my career, to say I was uncomfortable having hard conversations with senior executives and the Board would be an understatement. After my first few presentations, I was told directly that I needed to improve my “executive presence.” What I didn’t know was what that actually meant — or how I was supposed to do it. As a woman, a minority leader, and an ESL speaker, I felt a lot of pressure to get it right. I worked long hours perfecting everything, and that pressure started to affect how I was leading my team and my life at home. Working with BJ wasn’t about fixing my presentation skills or learning how to act more “executive.” She helped me see the old pattern I was still operating from earlier in my career. Through the coaching, I stopped trying to prove myself and started fully occupying my VP leadership role. As that changed, I stopped overworking, delegated more clearly, and showed up to senior meetings more relaxed and confident, and more direct and candid. Those hard conversations with the executive team and Board became easier and matter of fact — and in time, I confidently moved into the Chief Accounting Officer role."
Client's name changed and company name withheld to protect client confidentiality.
What Happens If Nothing Changes?
At this stage of leadership, staying where you are as a good leader is not neutral.
When the scope, visibility, and consequences of your role outgrow the inner structure you’re leading from, effort can keep things moving — but at an increasing cost.
Like an outdated operating system trying to run a high-performance game, the internal structure you’re leading from will eventually strain under the demands of the role.
You can keep delivering.
You can keep hitting targets.
You may even keep getting promoted.
But the strain doesn’t disappear — it compounds. And over time, it shows up not only in your work, but in your relationships, your health, and your overall quality of life.
Leadership starts requiring more and more of you — and giving less and less back.
THE HIDDEN COSTS OF LEADERSHIP STRAIN
In real leadership roles, inner structure strain shows up in ways that slowly become normal across work and life. Below are 7 of the most common. Notice which ones you’ve learned to live with.
You’re in the Weeds
You stay on top of things so nothing spirals out of control — but the work only you can do, and actually enjoy, gets crowded out with playing catch up in evenings and weekends. Your team feels managed instead of trusted with ownership, and projects drag on.
You’re Stuck in Perfecting
Your high standards drive quality, but the need to get it right leads to self-criticism and second-guessing. What feels like diligence to you starts to look like overthinking rather than decisiveness — to senior leaders and a team waiting for clear direction.
You’re Holding Back at the Table
You’ve earned your role, but part of you still feels you don’t belong at this level. In senior meetings, you hold back, waiting to speak up. The moment passes, your insight stays unspoken, and your impact shrinks — not from lack of ability, but presence.
You’re Always Right
You’re highly experienced, efficient, and often right — but your leadership comes across as controlling or critical rather than collaborative. Other ideas, solutions, and innovation shut down as people stop feeling heard, safe, or respected in the room.
You’re Always On
You’re high energy, highly productive, and always thinking about work and checking in — even at home. The team chases today’s urgency instead of making steady progress on clear goals. The pace never lets up, and over time you lose good talent.
You’re Passed Over
You’re valued and relied on, but opportunities stop opening. You’re considered, but not chosen — discussed, but not advanced. Not because you’ve failed, but because senior leaders don’t yet feel confident entrusting you with greater scope.
You’re Paying for It Elsewhere
You carry the strain so your leadership keeps working — but it doesn’t stay contained. Over time, it shows up in your health, your closest relationships, and how much life you actually enjoy, even as success continues on paper.
By now, it should be clear that what you’re experiencing isn’t about working harder or doing more — and it’s in no way a personal failing.
It’s the predictable outcome of leadership training systems built around constant adaptation — and the internal identity structure that forms when that’s the only option you’re given.
There’s a real difference between being a good leader who manages strain — and a great leader whose inner structure actually supports the level of leadership they’re carrying.
Managing the strain can keep things working.
But great leadership — in your work and your life — requires reorganizing the inner structure you’re leading from.
When that structure finally fits, leadership no longer strains to hold its shape under stress and complexity. It becomes structurally sound — able to carry the full weight of your role while unlocking the full range of your leadership potential.
That’s the work of Great Leader Identity Architecture™.
If you know you’re ready for that conversation, you can book a short introductory call.
Otherwise, read on to see what changes when that inner structure reorganizes.
Great Leader Identity Architecture™
Chances are you wouldn’t still be reading if this didn’t matter.
Something in your leadership isn’t working right — and you know it.
You’re ready to move past it.
If what you just read feels familiar, that’s not random.
It’s a signal that the level of leadership you’re carrying has outgrown the structure you’ve been leading from.
That’s why more skills, tools, or mindset shifts haven’t solved it.
They don’t reach the level leadership is actually coming from.
What’s been missing is coaching that works with the internal identity structure you’re leading from — the part of you that shapes how leadership shows up under pressure, complexity, and consequence, and how decisions and responses take form when the stakes rise.
When that structure is reorganized and updated, your leadership doesn’t just improve. It strengthens at its core and naturally expands into greater capacity and grounded influence.
You don’t simply lead better or differently.
You see and understand the inner structure beneath leadership — in yourself and others — and you lead from that place with clarity, ease, and genuine power.
You recognize when others are still operating from an inner structure they’ve outgrown — and you lead in a way that calls them forward.
Around you, people step more fully into their own capability, and the best in them — and in their work — shows up consistently.
That impact carries across teams and into high-stakes rooms — shaping direction, decisions, and outcomes at the highest levels.
This is the door from good to great leadership that Great Leader Identity Architecture™ unlocks.
WHEN YOU LEAD FROM THE STRUCTURE OF A GREAT LEADER
When the internal structure you’re leading from fully supports the level of leadership you’re carrying — and more — strain lifts and leadership becomes reliable, consistent, and scalable.
The results below aren’t forced upgrades or improvements — they’re the natural expression of a structure that finally fits your scope. Notice which ones you want most right now.
You Set Clear Direction w/ Sound Judgment
Your team knows what matters — and what doesn’t. Priorities turn into focused action, and the work moves forward. You make the call, hold it, and adjust when needed without losing ground. Peers admire your clarity. Your team trusts your judgment and is on board.
You Solve Problems at the Root
Instead of chasing the loudest issue, you look at what’s creating it — and fix that. Fire drills become rare. You strengthen both the conditions people work under and the systems that shape their results. Problems get solved once, and consistent progress replaces constant urgency.
You Turn Priorities Into Results
What gets set gets finished well. Projects aren't rushed or drag on past deadlines. Roles are clear. Meetings drive decisions instead of circling the same issues. The team operates with ownership and accountability — with your oversight and feedback, not constant supervision.
You Develop Talent & Build Leaders
You’re not just managing performance — you’re growing people. You praise good work and address hard issues early. You recognize strengths and close skill gaps through guidance and training. Competence and confidence deepen. People step into greater responsibility without relying on you.
You Create Team Culture Intentionally
Within the larger organization, your team knows what it stands for and how it works together. Team culture doesn’t form by default — you define it. Safety supports straight talk and high standards. You and your team align around a clear purpose and shared values — staying strong under pressure.
You Own Your Seat at the Table
You show up and speak as an equal — at ease, candid, and open-minded. In high-stakes rooms, you share clear insight that drives decisions. Cross-functional partners collaborate willingly. Senior leaders respect your perspective, and your credibility and influence carry beyond your title.
You Become A Great Leader
In complex organizations, strategic change and disruption are inevitable. You remain grounded in demanding seasons. You hold stability while guiding adoption and transition. Greater scope fits you. Senior leaders recognize your readiness and trust you with broader impact across the enterprise. Your leadership capacity expands with increased complexity and responsibility.
You Continue to Evolve & Thrive
More of your potential and capability comes online, and you fully embody great leadership. You enjoy the work, the challenge, and the difference you’re making. People say, “I have the best boss,” and mean it. That energy and success carry into your health, your relationships, and your quality of life. Long-held dreams for greater impact in a C-Suite role or other ventures move within reach.
If this reflects the leader you know you’re meant to be, the next step is simple.
Book a short, no-obligation introductory call — a friendly chat to meet, hear what’s going on in your leadership role, and decide whether it makes sense to talk further.
Great leaders don’t postpone this moment.
They step into it.
Click the 'Book A Call' button to be taken to my online calendar and reserve a time for us to speak.
REAL LEADERS
What Great Leadership Looks Like on the Other Side...
“In my product portfolio lead role, I had a breakthrough idea I believed could make a real difference, but I didn’t think I had the standing or expertise to bring it to senior leaders. I kept talking myself out of it, even though I knew it really mattered. Working with BJ wasn’t about learning how to speak up more or be more confident. It was about reorganizing how I saw my role, my authority and expertise, and how I related to senior leadership. Once that shifted, I stopped needing to earn permission or wait for the ‘right’ time. I brought my idea forward, and instead of it being challenged or dismissed, it was taken seriously. I was asked to lead the implementation, which I readily accepted. I didn’t even hesitate, because the way I now saw myself and my leadership had fundamentally changed through the coaching. More than anything, the work I did with BJ changed how I led from the inside, and that changed the whole trajectory of my career. I went on to oversee a €4.6B ($5B USD) innovation portfolio, trusted with real responsibility instead of staying behind the scenes.”
"One thing I’ve definitely learned in working with BJ is that avoiding tough talks doesn’t make you a great leader — it just makes things harder for everyone. Looking back, the truth is I knew for a while that some people on my sales team weren’t the right fit. I just didn’t want to deal with it. I’d train them, be encouraging, and give them more time and chances than I should have. Yeah, part of me didn't want to be the bad guy. And part of me really didn’t want to start hiring all over again. I was also stressed about the numbers and the team wasn’t hitting stride. My top performers were ticked off, and I knew I was letting them down. I love sales and the people I work with. I’ve always wanted to be a leader and I had worked hard to get here to now watch it all go down the toilet. Coaching with BJ helped me see my default leadership setup — why I was avoiding tough talks and why I wasn’t trusting my gut when it came to letting go of people who weren’t the right fit. Once that clicked, everything moved. We got clear on the kind of team I actually wanted to build and I stopped tolerating wrong fits. I hired differently, with team culture and fit front and center. The change has been huge. I’ve got the right people in the right seats. The team has a rhythm now. My top performers are energized and crushing it with the others rising up. I wouldn’t say I changed who I am. It’s more like the leader I always knew I was finally stepped forward and took over. BJ, appreciate you!"
Client's name changed and company name withheld to protect client confidentiality.
© 2026 Great Leader, All Rights Reserved